Keep The Passion Alive In Your Marriage

Remember your dating days? The days of holding hands, romantic candlelight dinners, talking quietly together while sitting by a roaring fire, walks in the park under the moonlight. How did it make you feel?
No matter how many years you have been married, keeping the romance alive and the fire embers burning bright in your marriage is something that is not only doable, but fun as well.

While it may be true that the initial passion and spark begins to wane after a period of time, fuelled by the responsibilities of caring for children, jobs etc. many couples tend to forget that their first priority is to their spouse and marriage. So here are a few tips to spice up your post marriage life:-

1. A done-to-death but works-like-a-charm cliché that should be in every woman’s rulebook: Put on something hot! Put the effort into getting dressed up (or dressing down) and looking hot for your man and he will put in the extra effort to match your hotness quotient

2. Make your man work!  A Council on Contemporary Family study showed that married men who help around the house doing chores get more sex than those who don’t. The logic behind it? Female desire has more to do with feelings and when the husband pitches in, wives feel more cared for and have “happy feelings”. And women love watching men-at-work and then letting them know how much they appreciate their work.

3. Make the move – during dinner at a restaurant, while hanging out at a friend’s place or when out running errands. Just whisper, “Take me to bed now!” wherever you are (in the middle of a lunch with his parents’ maybe). You can also set up a secret signal that you can safely use in public – “Honey, I don’t think I turned off the oven!

4. Chow down some aphrodisiac food-  Munching on almonds, peaches and candied ginger will boost your libido after a long day at work. Lettuce, ginseng tea, oysters and saffron are other commonly known aphrodisiacs.

5. Keep track of your cycle - Two weeks before menstruation is when you are at the peak of your heat. Schedule a sensual date night or take the day off and make it a time to remember and revisit every month.

6. Schedule the act - Today’s work-filled lifestyle takes a toll on having time for sex. Planning ahead to go on a date or scheduling a few hours of kids-and-responsibility-free alone time with your husband can work wonders on spicing up your sex life. Create a shared Google romance calendar and make appointments. It might sound bad to have to “schedule” sex but it works better than ending the busy day with no time to get intimate. Also, the anticipation you build up for your approaching appointment will up the passion ante. Want to kick it up a notch? Both of you should schedule a “doctor’s appointment” in the middle of the work day and sneak in for a quickie afternoon delight at home!

7. Get out of the bedroom - Kitchen, dining table, bathroom, the living room, backseat of the car in the garage – just do it anywhere but the bedroom. Just make sure to shut the blinds and lock the doors! Keep the TV out of the bedroom too. Research shows that couples without a television in the bedroom had sex twice as much as those with one in the room.

8. Other notable mentions -  hold hands (yes it works! - our fingers are densely packed with nerve endings that sense pleasure), have underwear-only nights, indulge in some  from work, try new positions, turn up the volume on a sensuous song or watch an adult movie. Whatever puts you in the mood – do it!