Sunday, 2 December 2012

How to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Marriage


Are you married and dwell in the constant fear of losing your spouse to someone else? It is time to affair proof your relationship, not only because you fear of losing him, but also to avoid a similar trap for yourself.
Follow the simple guidelines or codes of conduct and safeguard your relationship from every potential unforeseen threat by way of an extra-marital affair.
Be friends
More than just husband or wife try and become friends. Try and have common interests so that you get to find time for each other. Even if you do not share similar interests, try doing things together for each other’s sake.
Once friends, there will be no pretensions. Building the foundations of this relationship on friendship will give you ample security, freedom and space. It will also make your partner responsible towards your feelings, and they will think twice before looking outside the marriage for love or care.  
Inculcate safe friendships
There might be a couple of things or interests which do not go down well with you and vice versa. For example: His interests in motor engine workings or electronic gadgets are hardly found amusing by you. Fret not, but help your husband spend some time with his guy friends to have some space of his own. This will keep him happy and keep your relationship safe from any potential affairs.
Hang out with happy couples
Try and ensure that you have happy couples in your friend list. Committed people are bound to spread their influence, so you and your partner will feel safe and happy with each other. The need to have someone else fill the loopholes in your marriage will get significantly reduced.
Listen
A good relationship thrives when you pay attention to it. It does not have to be by way of running errands or spending on material things. Listening will be more than enough. At the end of the day, a partner needs a company. Even if his talks are mindless to you, do not voice it. Be empathetic and listen to his day’s events. The very fact that you lent an ear will make him feel better and happy. He will look forward to this and will ensure spending time with you.
Channelize your energy somewhere else
There may be a number of times when you feel your partner or spouse is not behaving up to the mark. This causes detachment, making you vulnerable to get caught in the web of an extra-marital affair. The best solution would be to focus and channelize your negative feelings into something creative. Try and cultivate a hobby, where you can vent out your anger or depression. This will not only help curb the feeling, but also improve your quality of life, thereby making you feel satisfied.
Mind you, marriages are not always perfect. Spouses or partners have their own restrictions which may or may not seem up to the mark. This does not always mean that you go about finding a replacement. To make a marriage work, what is more important is how you contribute towards it. So, start making a few changes, to not just make your relationship affair proof, but also to relish good moments with each other.

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